It is painful to wake up

Psychotherapy is of no help to people who suffer from serious self-deceptions. A therapist doesn't tell his client that he is a needy sucker, even if this is his main problem. If his client is a selfish, narcissistic asshole he will not tell her that this is the case. It is pointless. She is not listening. (It is as if a medical doctor doesn't tell his patient that she has diabetes because she doesn't like negative news.) 

A needy sucker has a chance to wake up if he or she gets ditched by a narcissistic asshole, but the narcissistic asshole will never wake up. Narcissists die in their delusions.

Needy suckers ought to be immensely grateful if they have the luck to be connected to a narcissistic asshole. Narcissists serve an important role in life. Without them, suckers would also die in their delusions. Narcissists are doing what nice and understanding therapists don't dare to do.

Defense mechanisms

Spirituality can function as a powerful psychological defense mechanism. If you can't accept how the world works you can invent a spiritual fantasy world, a castle in the air filled with angels, gurus, and life coaches.

Rationalization is also a well-known defense mechanism. The smart-ass delivers clever scientific explanations and philosophical expositions while his spouse is cheating on him.

Denial, delusion, idealization, there are many kinds of defense mechanisms.

We have to protect ourselves. Defense mechanisms help us to cope in this terrible world of war, terror, pain, disease, and falsehood.

The past

Fortune tellers believe that they can see into the future. They believe that the future is located somewhere, like a foreign country. What stupid belief. The future is here, right now, for us who were waiting for it a few years ago. Here it is. Isn't it amazing? You couldn't possibly have known that you should sit here today, reading this. This is not what you expected.

Non duality

The spirit world and the material world are the same world. They are the two sides of the same coin. Body and soul are not two separate substances.

What is matter? What is an electron, a particle, or a wave? What does it consist of? What is a quark? What does a quark consist of? Vibrating strings? What is dark matter? 

Why is it so hard for you to see that matter is as mysterious as a spirit? What is a spirit made of?

You have no idea of what will happen to you after your death. Maybe you will live on in some other physical form. Maybe you will be resurrected in another universe. Maybe you simply dissolve and disappear forever. You don't know.

Life is a mystery; death is a mystery, everything is a mystery.

Paranormal phenomena

Dean Radin, Charles T. Tart, and Russell Targ, to mention a few prominent scientists, have proved that telepathy, clairvoyance, and synchronicities are real phenomena; paranormal phenomena are not just fantasies.

However, the influence of the paranormal dimension is almost negligible here in everyday life. Common sense, money, sex appeal, and social status are much more powerful tools.

 

Self-deception

Delusions are warm and comfortable.

Awakening is like a cold shower.

The true self

The true self is the person you are behind the mask.

The mask is the false self.

The true self may be sad, jealous, pessimistic, or needy.
The false self is more attractive: positive, optimistic, cool, or agreeable.

The false self is the person you want to be and pretend to be.
The true self is the one you are when you don't pretend.

Sometimes, though, the true self is happy.