It is painful to wake up

Psychotherapy is of no help to people who suffer from serious self-deceptions. A therapist doesn't tell his client that he is a needy sucker, even if this is his main problem. If his client is a selfish, narcissistic asshole he will not tell her that this is the case. It is pointless. She is not listening. (It is as if a medical doctor doesn't tell his patient that she has diabetes because she doesn't like negative news.) 

A needy sucker has a chance to wake up if he or she gets ditched by a narcissistic asshole, but the narcissistic asshole will never wake up. Narcissists die in their delusions.

Needy suckers ought to be immensely grateful if they have the luck to be connected to a narcissistic asshole. Narcissists serve an important role in life. Without them, suckers would also die in their delusions. Narcissists are doing what nice and understanding therapists don't dare to do.