Some people pretend they believe in God; others pretend they are atheists. Some pretend they are honest and reliable; others play dumb.
However, not all people are pretenders. Some people are honest, reliable, and real, at least sometimes.
I sometimes believe there is a God somewhere; other times, I am an atheist. Sometimes, I am honest; other times, I am not.
There is no real me, no core self. I am a theatre company. And an audience.
There is more than one leading role in this play. There are also co-leads.
When you die, not only one leading actor will go to heaven or hell; not only one best actor or actress will be awarded.
Eventually, the whole company will split and go looking for new jobs.