Suppose they gave a war and nobody came

You don´t need to read much history to lose all faith in mankind. 
Endless wars and atrocities in the name of Jahve, Jesus Christ, 
Allah, manifest destiny, truth, democracy, freedom...

Thousands and thousands of years of horrors.

Still, most people you meet are decent and friendly.

How do you explain this? What's wrong with us?

What's wrong with you?

Why can't we stop following crazy, bellicose leaders: 
political leaders, religious leaders, leaders of the pack?
Is it because we are made to follow leaders, like chimpanzees?

Well, we also have the power to resist our natural urges.
It's difficult, but it is possible.

It's possible to jump off the bandwagon.

But you don´t.

You have to have a band to belong to. You have to have a bandleader. 
You can find another group of people to identify yourself with
but you have to belong somewhere. 

You're afraid of being all alone.
You're afraid of traveling alone without a roadmap.
I can understand that.
Nevertheless, it's possible to defect.

Many people have been able to leave their religious cult.
Many people have been able to leave their drinking buddies.
Many political dissidents have left their home, in search of a new home
in a new country, in a new culture.
Even criminal gang members have been able to leave their gang.